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Year Two in Deutschland: Milestones Unlocked

What a difference a year makes. Last year, I was just a carefree newcomer who just with started her German lessons, given up on making new friends, and just focused on occupying myself with my freelance jobs. Now, well… I am about to be a mom and my ambivalence of this anticipation is driving me nuts! I can’t wait to meet the love of my life – that’s all I could think of right now.

Even before I fell pregnant in January, I vowed to finish this German Integration Course before this year ends by hook or by crook and so I’m proud to say that now I am…

Finally done with my Integration Course

Passed my B1 language exam with vibrant flying colors and just took the Orientation course exam last week – just waiting for the results to be dropped into my mailbox. I don’t really know how long that would take as nobody could give me a clear answer, but I’m quite confident I will pass that one, too. Staff at the admin office just told me it will take a few weeks. Once I receive it, I can finally get the Zertifikat Integrationskurs from BAMF, which is the last thing I need to apply for the reimbursement of half of the tuition fee I’ve invested in it.

But just because I can finally close this chapter in my life and move on, I will not stop learning German or learning about living in Germany – that’s for sure! Especially when I will have a little one soon who will make life here more challenging and exhilarating. I’m very much looking forward to it, to be completely honest.

Getting into the Mommy Circle

So last year I said I’ve given up on making new friends by ditching random meetup events in and around Frankfurt. Plus, I didn’t really have time for it anyway as I’d been juggling school and work. But being pregnant allows you to connect with people who you definitely have something in common and not do any kind of guessing game as what sort of topics you both might like. Apart from first time expectant moms I’ve met through the birth preparation classes, some expat mommy groups here in Frankfurt regularly organize gatherings for moms-to-be and also playgroups where moms do not have to pay just to for their toddlers to be able to interact/socialize with other kids. I have only honestly attend three meetups so far, so I haven’t formed any special “bond” with other moms yet, I think. But it does me good to come around when I have time just to talk about random things only pregnant women or moms can relate to.

Sure you will get a ton of unsolicited advices, but it’s up to you what to do with it and that really do not stress me out because so far, I’ve been lucky to meet ladies who are non-judgmental in nature. I normally do appreciate them taking the time to tell you their experiences on certain things and not be pushy – they know that what works for them may not work for me. And I think if you are keen and something makes sense, it doesn’t hurt to try. I know lots of Facebook mommy groups where it’s nothing more but just plain chaos and mom-shaming than a support group – the least you’d need in your journey to motherhood. Dealing with negativity is not one of my strong suits, so as soon as I sense something off, I leave – I don’t need any of that right now.

Now that we’re done moving and slowly settling down in our new apartment just directly below our old one (yes, very convenient!), I hope I can go and attend these meetings more often while I am still mobile. I like that somehow it doesn’t put any pressure on me. I can just show up whenever I am able.

Nesting has begun

I’ve mentioned that we’ve just moved to a new apartment to have more space for our growing family. In the last couple of days, I’ve been trying to keep it neat, decked and fully ready for my darling boy’s arrival – man, this mommy just can’t keep still! Of course, I still do like to sneak in naps in between chores. Everyone kept reminding me to slow down and take it easy especially my husband, but I’m getting doses of energy boosters each time I imagine holding my baby in my arms.

There are still a few things that need to be set up which I will be leaving to dear husband to take charge of like fixing the baby swing and co-sleeper bed. Also, some essentials for our hospital bag – I hope I don’t overpack as the husband will be the one carrying all that stuff.

Wrapped up our travel checklist for the year

From October last year, we made sure we visited all our favorite places and added a few more to satisfy our desire to roam. We even got to do our mini Caribbean cruise trip during my first trimester – our belated honeymoon trip we oh so deserve. We also went to mini excursions within Germany and nearby cities before I started with my summer school. So I would say that even though our planned roadtrip through some parts of Italy didn’t push through this time, we didn’t get entirely stuck “at home”.

There will definitely be less traveling, at least by plane, once the baby is here – but I’m sure once he gets a little robust, we’ll be back on our travel feet with a few adjustments!

Here smiling to myself and impatiently waiting for what this life is going to present in exactly a month from now – plus or minus! There’s just so much to look forward to and I can’t complain. 🙂